Radically Alive Relationships: From Connection to Communion By Dr. Lisa Cooney

The fantasy of Prince Charming and Happily Ever After create a false foundation for relationship.

This fantasy has you…

1. Enter into relationship with false assumptions and false personas. 

As a result you develop “points of connection” that keep you from being your

authentic magical self.

2. Look to relationship as a source of security and status to establish stability in your life.

As a result you develop “stability points” that keep you locked in your own cage.

3. Say to each other things like, “Don’t leave me,” and “Don’t change.” 

As a result you limit yourself as you try to keep your partner locked in their cage.

All of this is a set up for failure.

When you’ve experienced abuse, you tend to re-create these patterns in your relationships. This can range from the dramatic to the subtle. The subtlest yet most pervasive pattern of abuse is “divorcing yourself.”

In other words: your needs and desires aren’t considered in your relationship – by you or your partner. You base your relationship on the lie that you don’t matter. Relationship ends up being a job or something you tolerate rather than a joy and something that enlivens you.

So how do you move beyond the points of connection and stability points?

How do you create a radically alive relationship?

Join me and Special Guest Susan Lazer Hart for my radio show, “Beyond Abuse, Beyond Therapy, Beyond Anything,” and discover the path to right relationship that is enlivening and limitless.
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